15 Toxic and entitled influencers on the internet and my piece of advice to them- part 1.
Social media is full of controversial, toxic and tone deaf influencers who use the controversy that shrouds them to their advantage. They rack up hundreds of thousands or even millions of followers and cash in from the online fame. Unfortunately many impressionable young people look up these influencers and believe the crap that comes out of their mouths. They aspire to these influencers and believe that they’re living the dream.
In reality most of these influencers live a superficial and soulless existence. I researched some of the most controversial and toxic influencers- some I’ve already heard of and are very well-known, but some were not well-known to me. Obviously some on the list are worse than others but they’re all a pretty unlikeable bunch in my eyes. Here’s my list and my reaction to these influencers.
1. Liv Schmidt.
This “skinny influencer” has been banned from TikTok for her controversial content which promotes eating disorders. She boasts about being able to fit into kid’s clothing and in her videos shows off the tiny food portions that she consumes. According to her bio: ‘It’s not a sin to want to be thin. Saving America from obesity 1 person @ a time.’
In some of her content she has even used cow, pig and whale emojis and in one video she claims that putting on weight would be her worst nightmare. She gives advice on how to be skinny like she is and as well as posting “motivational” content like in the image above.
Unlikability factor: 7.5/10
My advice: It’s clear Liv that you have an eating disorder from your emaciated frame to your obsession with staying thin. You have an audience of extremely impressionable young girls and women- some who probably already struggle with eating disorders. You are highly irresponsible and a poor role model.
There’s a fine line between wanting to be a healthy weight and striving to have the body of a runway model. Obesity isn’t healthy and it shouldn’t be glorified, but neither should anorexia. Plus following such an extreme restrictive diet only sets most people up for failure and gaining the weight back.
There’s more to life than how much you weigh. I was obsessed with my weight and body image at your age and it was miserable. Who you are as a person, your values and intellect matters more than what you look like. Don’t waste your life consumed by looking a certain way. By all means be healthy and maintain a healthy weight (which you’re definitely not) but you can still enjoy life without being obsessed with your image.
2. Flipsy and Liv.
Perhaps this couple doesn’t have such a huge following like other influencers, but they still have a sizeable audience with 68.8k followers on TikTok and 3.1 million combined likes. This young couple centre their content around their relationship which doesn’t seem particularly healthy. One video that got close to 800,000 views was a video about Liv’s controversial rules for her boyfriend when he goes clubbing without her. First why would you feel the need to go clubbing when you’re in a relationship, especially without your partner unless it’s a one off occasion like a friend’s birthday?
Looking at some of the other videos it seems apparent that there’s very little trust in the relationship with Liv being suspicious of how her boyfriend approaches other girls and what he gets up to in a club without her. In another video they clearly have different ideas about what constitutes as cheating. If you have to ask whether it’s cheating, it definitely is cheating. In one of their videos, Liv mentions that they’re on a break (when you take time out of the relationship).
Unlikability factor: 4/10 (they’re young, stupid and immature)
My advice: Your relationship does not sound healthy. The fact that you constantly feel the need to obsessively flaunt your relationship is a sign of that. It’s important to have your own identity outside of your relationship otherwise you’ll just lose yourself if you haven’t already. What if you break up which seems likely? What will you have then? If you want to have a healthy relationship perhaps stop going out clubbing and posting constant videos. There’s clearly little trust between you two. It seems like you both have a lot of growing up to do, but you’re only young.
3. Lucy Welcher.
This influencer recieved a lot of flack by claiming that she’s too pretty to get a job. How entitled can you get? In one of her videos she said, “Does it look like I want to get up at 6am every fucking day for the next 60 years? No! I’m too pretty for that!” Understandably she received a lot of criticism and mockery. In response to the backlash, Lucy claimed that she was joking, but judging from her TikTok, she seems vapid and entitled. Her videos are dull and inane.
In another video she claims that women should get a pay check from the government for just existing and because women like to shop and spend more than men. She says in another video that if she fails to get rich, she’ll just marry a rich man. Lucy also claims that there’s no job she’d want to do (apart from influencing of course).
Unlikability factor: 8/10
My advice: You ability to work has nothing to do with how you look sweetie. You’re just next level entitled. You’re not the prettiest girl out there so get off of your high horse. There are girls far prettier than you and who are more down to earth that don’t think that they’re entitled enough not to work. You can’t rely on influencing as a “job”. One day you’ll be taken over by prettier and younger influencers so enjoy it whilst it lasts. Maybe focus on developing a personality and your skills and education so that when your looks won’t help you get by, you’ll have something to fall back on.
4. Estee C Williams.
I’ve mentioned Estee a couple of times in my tradwife articles. Estee C Williams is probably one of the most notable tradwives on TikTok with a following of almost 200,000. Estee believes in strict gender roles for men and women. She believes that a woman should be a home maker whilst a man should be a provider. In her videos she controversially states that women should submit to their husbands. She also claims that she dropped out of college to pursue being a tradwife. In her videos she gives advice to young girls in school to be tradwives, how to attract a masculine man and be ultra feminine. Ultra conservative Estee supports the passport bros movement and is a staunch pro-life advocate.
Unlikability factor: 5/10 (I don’t think she’s an awful person, she’s just been brainwashed)
My advice: Whilst you seem sweet and nice Estee and you don’t think that your content is harmful, your beliefs are outdated and toxic. There’s no one way to be feminine. You don’t have to be a 1950’s housewife to be feminine. You can be a non-traditional woman but still be feminine. A woman should never be dependant on a man- dependence can lead to an imbalance in the relationship. These traditional men can use their dominance to their advantage and control a woman financially and emotionally. The 1950’s was not such a romantic and wonderful era as you paint it- many housewives endured abusive relationships and felt unfilled and trapped as women.
If you want to stay at home and be a home maker, that’s your choice, but there’s no need to promote it to impressionable young girls and women. It’s important for women to have independence because independence is freedom. Independence is empowering and means that you can cope by yourself. It also means realising your own potential as a woman. Patriarchy has taught women that any achievements outside of being a wife and mother are meaningless. Women are capable of so much more. You’re just endorsing the patriarchal values that have limited women for centuries.
Also what if your husband divorces you or dies? What will you do then? How will you survive in the real world? You won’t have a college degree or work experience to fall back on?
5. Soudi and Jamal.
I’ve seen many videos of this woman bragging about being the wife of a multi-millionaire. Soudi, who lives in Dubai with her millionaire husband Jamal, lives a life so luxurious that it’s obscene and decadent. She makes videos about how much money her husband spends on her (a sickening amount- in one week he spent over a million dollars on her including a 4 carat diamond ring for $30,000 and a custom necklace for $200,000). He even bought her a private island for $50 million dollars. Brash and high-maintenance Soudi claims in one of her videos that she would break up with her husband if he reduced her $100,000 monthly allowance. She also has a list of strict demands for her husband including that he has to pay her $300,000 for the first child they have and then increase the amount for anymore children that they have.
She complains about how hard life is being so rich because she always has to look 10/10 (she’s seriously deluded if she thinks she looks that good). She hates when her husband makes her fly commercial or when she has to share her private jet. My heart bleeds. Someone get the violins out.
Unlikability factor: 10/10
My advice: Girl are you even for real? Unfortunately I think that you are. You don’t come across as a particularly nice person. You’re extremely snobby, judgemental and rude. Not everybody is jealous of you and wants your life love. I certainly don’t have the desire to have such an empty and superficial lifestyle or material items that cost more than somebody’s annual salary. The money your husband spends on you (and himself) could be put to greater use such as helping some of the poorest nations in the world.
I just hope that one day your millionaire hubby goes bankrupt so you’ll get the reality check you need. Maybe having a taste of what real life is like will get you off of your high horse and make you just a teeny bit humble. I just feel sad for you having such a shallow and boring life that you feel you need to be on TikTok 24/7. Your millionaire hubby seems controlling and is obviously buying your love and affection to cover up what he probably gets up to behind your back. After all money doesn’t buy friends or a loyal husband.
That’s it for part 1. Let me know your thoughts on this article. What influencers do you think are toxic and entitled? Are you ready for part 2?
