8 Unhealthy relationship styles and dynamics and how to overcome them.

Monica Selo
13 min readNov 20, 2024

Relationships can be complicated, unfulfilling and toxic if you and/or your partner have unresolved traumas and issues or lack emotional maturity. Most people have been in at least one bad relationship in their life. Bad relationships are traumatic but they can also help you to grow and to learn more about yourself.

Trauma, poor self-esteem and deep insecurities can cause people to gravitate towards toxic partners. I’ve been in toxic relationships before- at the time I was insecure and naive but these experiences made me realise that I deserve a hell of a lot better.

Maybe you keep getting trapped in toxic relationships or you’re the one who unknowingly keeps on repeating the same toxic patterns which lead to poor quality relationships and relationship failure. Well fear not. They key to finding a fulfilling and loving relationship is to acknowledge and deal with unresolved traumas, confront and challenge toxic beliefs and accept responsibility. Personal growth and accountability can only happen with emotional maturity and willingness to change.

Below are 8 dynamics and styles that epitomize toxic and unhealthy relationships. It’s important to note that relationships can also exhibit a mixture of these different styles.

1. The leaping frog 🐸.

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Monica Selo
Monica Selo

Written by Monica Selo

I love writing. I may be controversial but I'm not afraid to say it how it is.

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