Can cheaters ever change? Only under these circumstances.

Cheating absolutely sucks. It’s a cruel and selfish act that can traumatise victims. Having said that, not every cheat is a monster beyond redemption. Whilst I tend to agree that in most cases, “once a cheat, always a cheat” applies, not every single person that has ever cheated will continue this toxic and hurtful behaviour. Especially not somebody who has grown and matured as a person and has done a lot of work on themselves. Sometimes, it also takes a taste of your own medicine to change.

I actually cheated when I was really young. I was straight out of school and had just started university. Before university, I started dating a guy. I really liked him and he liked me. We were from the same town but went to universities hundreds of miles apart. In hindsight, I shouldn’t have started a relationship that was doomed from the start. Getting into a relationship after two weeks of knowing one another plus long distance thrown in the mix was a terrible idea.

I grew up pretty sheltered. I didn’t drink, go to parties or hang out with boys. The boys that I did know weren’t interested in me. Girls at school were nasty and told me that I’d never get a boyfriend and would always be a virgin. I had zero self-esteem.

University was the first time in my life that I was surrounded by male attention. Guys…