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Stop judging women with “high body counts.”

Monica Selo
6 min readFeb 23, 2024

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The extremely unfair double standard of shaming women for having many sexual partners is unfortunately still prevalent in society. It’s acceptable and encouraged for men to have as many sexual partners as they want, whilst women are shamed for it. It’s 2024 for fucks sake, not 1954!

I’m sick of men moaning about how unattractive women with high body counts are and how they aren’t relationship material. For those who aren’t familiar with the term, body count refers to the number of sexual partners a person has had.

What even counts as a high body count? Two partners, ten partners, twenty, fifty, a hundred?? Can a body count ever be too high? Yes, but for BOTH sexes. It also depends on frequency and when they started being sexually active. Let’s say somebody has a body count of 50, but they’ve been sexually active for 20 years. That’s the average of 2.5 partners a year which in theory isn’t a lot.

Compulsively sleeping with people for validation, low self-esteem and putting yourself at risk is an issue. Sleeping with a hundred or more partners for both sexes is extreme. There’s the issue of safety especially for women, especially if she’s sleeping with random men that she’s just met. They could be psychos and murderers. Also there’s the risk of catching STIs for both sexes.

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Monica Selo
Monica Selo

Written by Monica Selo

I love writing. I may be controversial but I'm not afraid to say it how it is.

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