Why normalising non-monogamy is dangerous and immoral.

Monica Selo
9 min readOct 17, 2023

Whenever I scroll through social media, YouTube or my news feed, there are endless articles and videos about open relationships and polyamory. Even on dating apps, I’ve come across many profiles of guys or joint couple profiles openly stating that they are non-monogamous and in open relationships. Whilst I consider myself to be a liberal and enlightened person, non-monogamy is something that I can’t come to grips with or accept. I understand that the rise of non-monogamous relationships is not a new concept. Non-monogamy goes far back to Palaeolithic times (the caveman era) and continues into the biblical era where the most famous patriarchs such as Abraham had more than one wife.

Overtime, polygamy became outlawed and marriage evolved to being strictly between two people (with the exception of certain cultures that always have and still continue to practice polygamy). However, that didn’t necessarily mean that people were faithful. It was common and normal for men to have mistresses in addition to their marriage, however this was a grossly unfair double standard as women who were unfaithful were harshly punished and cast out from society. As a result of the feminist revolution, women no longer face harsh consequences if they are unfaithful and modern non-monogamy means that both men and women can be equally unfaithful.

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Monica Selo
Monica Selo

Written by Monica Selo

I love writing. I may be controversial but I'm not afraid to say it how it is.